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This "Wild & Precious Life"

I Am Here

10/16/2020

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"It seems the closer we get to being broken open, the more rawly we experience the muscle of paradox ... inside everything that is breakable, including us, is the one unnamable thing that is unbreakable." - Mark Nepo
I have never been much of a meditator, in fact I had decided a few years ago when it seemed like everyone was talking about mindfulness that I simply couldn’t do it because my attention continually wandered! Then when I took up a sitting practice as part of Presence-Based Coaching training I was taught that the whole point of meditation is to bring my attention back – that’s the muscle I’m building! I can do that! And once I practiced, I began to see the impact of slowing down enough to be present in my own body, truly with myself at least once a day. This practice stretches time and allows me to be still – it’s changed me and lets me drop down into my own knowing. As Glennon Doyle says in her recent book Untamed  “I can know things down at this level that I can’t on the chaotic surface.”

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During these last few months, when I was being still and dropping down deep, I found myself breathing to the mantra of “I am here.” ​Then my thoughts wandered, as they generally do, and I wondered “where is here?” Right now, I’m living in the midst of the unknown, feeling unmoored and at the same time I’m living in the complete familiarity of my home and experiencing the very familiar shortening of the days and cooling of the nights as we head toward winter in Minnesota. This is a different kind of “here” than I’ve experienced before, and yet, it is in many ways how the world has always been, I just didn’t notice it. With the literal uproar in the biological, natural, social and political arenas, it’s a lot clearer to me that I am in the midst of uncertainty. I don’t know what is coming next and my usual ways of predicting and, let’s face it, controlling or at least trying to control are not working so well right now! I’m struck by the “both/andness” of it – both known and unknowable, both familiar and unprecedented.

So many both/ands for me in this “here” – just a few that I’ve noticed lately: possibility and stuckness, inspired and indifferent, slow and fast, peaceful and chaotic, energized and exhausted, connected and isolated, growth and loss, together and apart, easy and hard, laughter and tears, everything and nothing. I find myself seeing both/ands in almost everything I do and almost everywhere I go.

I’m wondering what it is to truly live into these both/ands rather than looking for the either/or solutions. I know for sure there is a messiness to it, nothing is tied up in a nice bow right now. This is where I get uncomfortable – and I like to get to work cleaning up the messes rather than living into and moving with them. At the same time there is an ease to flowing with what is rather than figuring out what is supposed to be – I believe this is where we can find acceptance with engagement. As my pastor Meta Herrick-Carlson put it, “with paradox [or both/andness] we don’t have to wrap our heads around it, we have to open our hearts to it.” My knowing says it’s about seeing the path forward by noticing and opening my heart to the both/and of space and obstacles – seeing not just the boulders on the path but also the path between and around them. And that’s exactly where I am, holding all of these both/ands for myself, which is messy, and hard, and full and real. Channeling Dr. Seuss, I am here, where is here, here is where I am. Here is grounded in me and you and the both/and of what is. Where are you right now? I’d love to connect and hear about your “here.”
9 Comments
Vicki Flaherty
10/17/2020 06:16:08 pm

Lovely post, Caroline. Thanks for your open sharing. I, too, feel the paradox of now, the full range of our humanity, the invitation to wholeness. My biggest challenge is opening to the darker side and allowing it to move through me - as you say to living and moving through the messes. Good to have you back after your hiatus. Vicki

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Caroline Cochran link
10/19/2020 05:31:24 pm

Thanks Vicki! And yes, that is the challenge! Really an exercise in allowing, accepting and even appreciating what is, even if what is is not what I want it to be. Lovely to dialogue with you as always!

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Jeff Steinke
10/18/2020 07:54:54 am

Love the messaging here. Reinforcing the importance of mental as well as physical health.
Helps to remind me to be mindful and take care of self.

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Caroline Cochran link
10/19/2020 05:36:50 pm

Great to hear from you Jeff! Mindfulness and self care are so important, especially as we navigate the both/ands of our world right now. I appreciate you drawing that connection!

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Jeff Summers
10/20/2020 04:00:38 pm

Caroline - hands down, that is the most insightful thing I've read during this entire, bizarre time of our lives. Thank you.

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Caroline Cochran link
10/20/2020 07:22:03 pm

Thanks so much for letting me know that this spoke to you Jeff! Bizarre time is right!

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Anne
10/20/2020 07:15:29 pm

Thank you for this, Caroline. Here as presence with both stillness and flow. We get to be alive!

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Caroline Cochran link
10/21/2020 10:50:30 am

That's exactly it Anne, the fullness of aliveness which is both stillness and flow! Yay, we get to be alive!

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Green Bay Muslim Singles link
5/13/2025 07:38:45 pm

It's interesting how embracing both sides of situations can lead to deeper understanding.

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