"It seems the closer we get to being broken open, the more rawly we experience the muscle of paradox ... inside everything that is breakable, including us, is the one unnamable thing that is unbreakable." - Mark Nepo
I have never been much of a meditator, in fact I had decided a few years ago when it seemed like everyone was talking about mindfulness that I simply couldn’t do it because my attention continually wandered! Then when I took up a sitting practice as part of Presence-Based Coaching training I was taught that the whole point of meditation is to bring my attentionback – that’s the muscle I’m building! I can do that! And once I practiced, I began to see the impact of slowing down enough to be present in my own body, truly with myself at least once a day. This practice stretches time and allows me to be still – it’s changed me and lets me drop down into my own knowing. As Glennon Doyle says in her recent book Untamed “I can know things down at this level that I can’t on the chaotic surface.”
"Certain conditions continue to exist in our society, which must be condemned as vigorously as we condemn riots. But in the final analysis, a riot is the language of the unheard. And what is it that America has failed to hear?" - Martin Luther King Jr. #GeorgeFloyd
I wrote a post for my blog a couple of weeks ago and just didn’t put it out there – I wasn’t exactly sure why. It felt like there was something missing, it didn’t feel complete, it wasn’t ready. And I see now that there was a reason for my hesitation because the world has changed again – as I write I am listening to the constant hum of helicopters and insistent whine of sirens and I’m in a place of rawness. Layers of what I know and patterns of my life are being stripped away. With the murder of George Floyd and the ensuing protest and unrest in my city and others around the country I’m left grieving and unbalanced. This is not my pain directly and yet I feel it. This is not my experience directly and yet I’m in it. I wonder how to show up in new ways for my whole community.
I last blogged on 2/24/20 – that was only 40 days ago (interesting number of days!) and in that time the world has changed before my eyes; I’ve been trying to catch my breath and find my way forward and I’m thinking you might be too. As my 16-year-old son said yesterday – “I’ve never seen anything like this in my life” so true, this is a first, even in my much longer life.
For the second half of the last 40 days I’ve been “busy” – but not busy in the way I have always thought of the word. Typically, my busy is focused on the doing – meeting with clients and colleagues, gathering with friends and family, carpooling, emailing, doing or “reminding” my family members to do household chores, running from thing to thing, fitting in one more task from the list – don’t get me wrong I’ve still been doing many of these things albeit in new ways and at the same time I’ve been busy trying to make sense of what is happening. I’ve been subsumed into the chaos of my thoughts – so much to process and so much time to process and yet clarity continues to escape me.
"In nature, nothing is perfect and everything is perfect." Alice Walker
True leadership is visionary – we know it when we see it, just as we know the true beauty of nature through its rich presence, perfectly imperfectness, and wholeness. It inspires and transforms us. This authentic leadership is available to and for all of us. By connecting with our inner leadership presence and bringing it to the world, we have exponential impact wherever we are.
Being in nature calls me into my own presence and wholeness - my sense of who I am. And when I'm inspired, I'm called to show up in the world in a new way. That's exactly why I decided to center my website on images of nature.
"Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them." Albert Einstein
What does acceptance mean to you? I’ve been asking that question of myself lately! There’s a lot of information out there on acceptance – when I Googled “acceptance articles” 249 million results appeared in 0.58 seconds. AND, although I haven’t read them all 😀 I’m pretty sure none of them will tell me what acceptance means to ME.
The word acceptance has been popping up all over my life recently! I have a high school senior who is applying to colleges – being “accepted” is a big deal, the Holy Grail in fact and “denied” and “deferred” leave these young men and women feeling like acceptance is pretty far away. Acceptance really matters!